I love this chapter. Ironically I was doing the activities in this chapter this week unwittingly.
In short, at your most busy and most stressful times, this is when you should stop and take a self care break.
Since I have been at my wits end now for two weeks straight Ripping out hair, crying, swearing, drinking - all the things I rarely get into these days.
But such is the ways of the universe, The last few days I have been taking my baths in dead sea salts with Baking Soda, Aloe, Baby Oil and some fragrance. Reading my mindless books and listening to calming ocean sounds.
I have added Yoga, pilates to my daily walks AND I bought new bras and Pajamas.
During the day, I will either exercise or nap.
So I have been adding this in all along. I'm planning to continue and pleased that I was doing this already!
(Pssst Now I am caught up!)
This is my Life Makeovers Blog. Here is where I do the "Heavy Lifting" in terms of my personal life. I am using the workbook called "Life Makeovers" By Cheryl Richardson. I will post At least one time per week initially and as the work goes on I will post more frequently. Please, If you would like to join me, pick up the book which features 52 practical and inspiring ways to improve your life one week at a time.
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
So Sue me I'm behind again.... Chapter 15 Two heads run better than one
Yeah Yeah Yeah.... In the height of personal issues I abandoned the Life Makeovers. Which is the absolute WORST time to abandon it.
so I'm back doing what I do. I thank all my friends who have helped and are continuing to help me through situation.
However, I used to be the girl/woman who hid under the covers tll the ugliness passed. One of the major things I have been working on as part of ME is to handle these things better and not let my life stagnate because o f them.
So I bought my new bras and some new sleep wear and am exercising and taking care of me.
Enough. Here's Chapter 15
Two heads are better than one is a great concept that most people DO NOT DO.
It's called asking for help when you need it. As humans, we have a tendancy to try to go it alone. We struggle, we get frustrated and sometimes quit. And sometimes we re-invent the wheel.
So Without realizing it, I already did the exercise this week. And I did it in a cool way that I didn't even notice till it was over.
Here's the scoop. I have this friend, My Voice Twin. She's younger than I am by 12+ years. very bright. ridiculously talented.... but new to teaching just based on age.
Now from what I can see and from what I have heard from her, she's got a lot of potential and is very intuitive and bright, so her career is off to a good start.
What struck me most about her is two things. Her confidence in her own abilities and her ease at asking for assistance when needed. or opinions or anything. She's very confident.
So, when our annual NYSSMA festival came around - I have 4 kids going on level 3. Two were doing a song that I deemed OK but it was selected for me by the school. I hate the song, but for the kids that were doing it, it was ok. I have 2 other kids going to a later festival and they were assigned the song too.
I was talking to my voice twin and was telling her that the song was working my last nerve. And she mentioned why she doesn't like that song and it struck a nerve. In a good way though. I was pulling into one of the later festival kids homes while talking to her. When I got there I realized that I could do what Voice Twin did. Change the song! She's very smart because the timing is right and the replacement song is PERFECT.
She and I regularly trade ideas on how to deal with parents and kids and peers and songs and sight reading and all that crap that makes us successful teachers. It never even occured to me to change the song, but we have a month. And all the things that she hates about the song would have taken out the kid who I was dealing with that day. So why set her up for failure? Give her a tune she is familiar with and have her learn it instead.
I am actually much more humble now about asking for help. Though I really want to tell you that I am OK on professional stuff, and community service and pretty much anywhere BUT personal.
I am working on that too. Not quick to let people in so I have to learn some trust.
so I'm back doing what I do. I thank all my friends who have helped and are continuing to help me through situation.
However, I used to be the girl/woman who hid under the covers tll the ugliness passed. One of the major things I have been working on as part of ME is to handle these things better and not let my life stagnate because o f them.
So I bought my new bras and some new sleep wear and am exercising and taking care of me.
Enough. Here's Chapter 15
Two heads are better than one is a great concept that most people DO NOT DO.
It's called asking for help when you need it. As humans, we have a tendancy to try to go it alone. We struggle, we get frustrated and sometimes quit. And sometimes we re-invent the wheel.
So Without realizing it, I already did the exercise this week. And I did it in a cool way that I didn't even notice till it was over.
Here's the scoop. I have this friend, My Voice Twin. She's younger than I am by 12+ years. very bright. ridiculously talented.... but new to teaching just based on age.
Now from what I can see and from what I have heard from her, she's got a lot of potential and is very intuitive and bright, so her career is off to a good start.
What struck me most about her is two things. Her confidence in her own abilities and her ease at asking for assistance when needed. or opinions or anything. She's very confident.
So, when our annual NYSSMA festival came around - I have 4 kids going on level 3. Two were doing a song that I deemed OK but it was selected for me by the school. I hate the song, but for the kids that were doing it, it was ok. I have 2 other kids going to a later festival and they were assigned the song too.
I was talking to my voice twin and was telling her that the song was working my last nerve. And she mentioned why she doesn't like that song and it struck a nerve. In a good way though. I was pulling into one of the later festival kids homes while talking to her. When I got there I realized that I could do what Voice Twin did. Change the song! She's very smart because the timing is right and the replacement song is PERFECT.
She and I regularly trade ideas on how to deal with parents and kids and peers and songs and sight reading and all that crap that makes us successful teachers. It never even occured to me to change the song, but we have a month. And all the things that she hates about the song would have taken out the kid who I was dealing with that day. So why set her up for failure? Give her a tune she is familiar with and have her learn it instead.
I am actually much more humble now about asking for help. Though I really want to tell you that I am OK on professional stuff, and community service and pretty much anywhere BUT personal.
I am working on that too. Not quick to let people in so I have to learn some trust.